Marriage

The notion and conviction behind the thought that marriage often kills love is rooted in the fact that the couple becomes a victim of the marriage partner’s power, perceptions, expectations and intransigence. Some of the aspects, which led the couple to the altar, contribute to the failure of such marriage, for they are grounded in the lack of sincere preparations for that marriage and the ease in which pre-nuptial commitments are formulated, where the matrimonial ceremonial vows exchanged are only man made formalities and rituals, rendered de facto insignificant by us who are Followers not Leaders.

Another fact emerges where falling in love is mere infatuation, illusion and convenience to serve ulterior motives, to blend into social patterns by escaping social pressures, to satisfy religious requirements, and finally to enter a new phase of engendering and procreation.

These phrases among others are often whispered: “s/he married for the money, the status, the power, and it seems only in legends and fairytales, rumors claim people get married for love and love alone.

Recently and specially with the emergence of feminist movements, the battle for the hearts and minds has taken a new edge and reached new alarming proportions. No longer do couples easily accept love as the only authoritative source of interacting, co-existence and everlasting motivation. In fact, many of marriage candidates consider marriage a mere business proposition, a transactional partnership and an agreement of good will.

The inseparable and undeniable similarity between love and faith, though both can cause frustration, humiliation and embarrassment, dictates the emotional and spiritual states where the soul, through their medium, aspires to reach the ultimate euphoria and refutes the subtle and sophisticated arguments of persuasive activists, intellectuals and skeptics, and where the body tags on to experience the warmth, the chills and the sensations as they are translated through body language, involving giving, longing, respect, devotion, togetherness and attachment.

Marriage without unconditional love and faith is likened into a king with no crown, throne or power. True love that leads to marriage is the launching pad for new chapter as it touches the lives of two people in the mind-boggling process of intimately sharing and caring.

“Remember the road to hell is paved with good intentions” ( Russian saying )